A few years ago we were in LOVE with deals and all about finding new things or nearly new things for nearly nothing…in price. It was a game, and a fun one my kids got into which made me thrilled that they were learning about saving, and budgeting. We didn’t take away from trends, popular toys, the “lit” things everyone had or brands that were already loved, but we did learn and teach about priorities.
During our last stream of blogs about saving, no one knew that we had ended up homeless. I continued these blogs through that time and after. Now, why would someone homeless be talking about clothes, and saving when they were in such a womp womp situation? Well, that’s exactly why. We never think that WE will be in that situation until its knocking on our door. One thing led to another and then we were standing underneath a landslide of things. We turned those situations into POSITIVE situations for our family, and looked at it as obviously a way to start fresh because there was a reason we went through everything.
We didn’t look like we were homeless. We didn’t look like we were in a shelter for 9 months. Even when we were back on our feet in another home, no one knew what we had just overcome.
The point of those blogs was just that. No one has to know what you’re going through. No one has to know you’re homeless, and you most certainly don’t have to look like you are…even if you’re not!! I’m not judging anyone but I do pride myself in having a decent family no matter what we’re going through. That is how I was raised, and that is how I will raise my family. Don’t talk about the struggles. Don’t look like the struggles. Is that fake? Absolutely not. Its pushing through and knowing you can make it without having a pity party or expecting one from others.
Do people still think we are crazy because we budget or scour the internet until we find something at a better deal than our friend got? Absolutely, but they don’t pay my bills either. I say that in the most bubbly, and most polite way possible!! Even if I don’t have to search for a deal, I do because there are some pretty important things coming up in our lives that I want to put money away for. Extra cars, school, school trips, outings with friends for the kids, college, and so much more for 3 kids.
Even though I have found a fabulous opportunity that will help with much of the financial portions and am building an empire with my own dream business, it is so they will be prepared for their kids as well. I’m not here to impress anyone intentionally, but to live happily on my terms, with my family, help others, and live for no one else but God and fam.
Struggles haven’t disappeared but how we handle them has improved tremendously. That’s the key in everything….now we are thriving through life!!
What I love about this group of photos is that it shows a small timeline of where our lives were in different situations, but in my opinion, there is no hint that any tragedy fell anywhere between these lines. Id say our family did very well and is very strong. I am blessed to have them by my side.
The family photo on the steps in coral was a family photo taken by a passerby while we were out walking in downtown Fort Myers on Easter of 2014. At that time we lived in the shelter (the photos before that one were from that time period). The next family group photo in pink and black was one from family photos we had taken after we moved into our home in 2015 (the ones after that photo are from that time period). This was our baby girl announcement! We were blessed with our 3rd child who was born in 2016!!
It took a long time to talk about what we had gone through and even now, only some things are mentioned, but we get stronger by the day. Talking about these things will not only help others who may be experiencing similar situations, but it also helps the person talking about it heal in numerous ways.
I have no doubt that we are destined for great things, and I am grateful for every trial that God has pulled us out of. I look forward to the future, for what he has in store for us, and how he will allow us to help others.
Have a blessed day!