Easter done Cole style

I will start off by saying that this post is not meant to take away from the true meaning of what Easter is about. It is not about the new outfit worn to church on Easter Sunday (even though my blog started out about clothing and will be about our outfits worn today) or bunnys, eggs and candy (where did that even come from?).

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Easter is about the resurrection of Jesus and how he is alive! He died for our sins and we are able to have fresh starts. It is amazing, He is amazing and I am eternally grateful for what he did for me and all of us.

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I was taught at an early age to always dress nicely when attending church services, except Wednesdays (you could if you wanted, but didn’t have to). Those were casual, but on Sunday, we wore our “Sunday best”. Why? We were to present ourselves the best we could in the Lords house and in his presence. Sure, we are in his presence every day, but that day we are in HIS house. Over the years, that has become old fashioned as modern churches accept casual wear all the time. There is nothing wrong with this at all. Jesus accepts us no matter how we dress so what is the big deal? I rarely wore pants on Sunday growing up, but as I got older I grew out of the frilly dresses and eventually even sported jeans on Sunday. I don’t see it as complete disrespect, but I don’t wear jeans to church anymore. That is just my preference, and it is probably because of what was instilled in me as a child.

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sunday best

Anyway, when I was a kid my mother did buy me a new holiday dress every year, but they wore what they already had. It was exciting for me to get a new dress, but do I do that today with my own kids? I used to. When they were very young it was exciting as a new parent to find all of these gorgeous, tiny outfits. I bought Alexis (now 10 years old) dresses from Macy’s ALL the time. Usually I got them on sale or on clearance, but their regular prices were $60 or more. J would say how ridiculous it was at how many “poofy” dresses she had, lol. I LOVED them. Does she remember them? No. I don’t even have that many photos of her in them. I tried to keep a few for her when she gets older, but over the years, they have been lost.

(I’ll pull some of my old pics out soon)

I see families spending hundreds on their outfits for this one day, but why? To look good for everyone else or to look good to God? Some of these people only go to church that one day out of the year. There is absolutely nothing wrong with that if you have the extra money, and are going to wear the clothes again, but for many that isn’t possible. We used to be that way until hard times hit more than once, and we learned what was more important to us as a family. Everyone is different though.

Today we wore what we had in our closets. Some of it was still “new” because we hadn’t worn it yet, but I can guarantee you we didn’t spend hundreds, and I think we look pretty darn cute ;). No one at church knew, and it wouldn’t have even mattered.

This actually reminds me of a story about J and I as a new couple shortly after our first child (Alexis) was born. This was in 2004.

We attended a church that was holding services in one of the private schools in Tennessee because they were new and did not have a building built yet. As a very young couple who had previously spent nights walking around Lexington, TN searching for enough silver change to buy pancake mix and syrup from a gas station for dinner (because everything else was closed and we were that broke), we felt very out of place. The members were older, sophisticated and established with their families, careers, vehicles and homes. We felt like they were looking at us as if we didn’t belong or that we were not good enough because we turned to Birth Choice for help when we found out we were pregnant. Birth Choice was great at teaching soon to be moms and new moms how to care for newborn babies and what to expect while pregnant with videos and a mentor. When you attended your appointments you collected points that were good on items that were donated. Items such as cribs, baby carriers, swings, decor, clothing, etc. We used our points on a crib and some other decor items and a car seat. Did these people really know? Probably not, but our pride was hurting, and we were very hard on ourselves.

We went with our family friends quite a bit (It happened to be my mentor from Birth Choice and her husband who are still really great friends of ours) and I remember that Christmas, I wanted a new outfit because I didn’t have anything “nice enough” to wear to the “rich church” on Christmas. J and I went to the mall where I picked up a silver, brocade skirt from Express on clearance. It wasn’t my size, but I said I could make it work (I still have that skirt!!!!!). I wore it with a fitted, black top, a glitter, black, 3/4 length cardigan (I also still have) I had from working at Sears, and some strappy heels. I was standing in the lobby waiting for J to come back from wherever it was he went, and a woman came up to me and said hi. She was a very elegant woman, and she said hi to ME.

J had bought a pea coat from Rue 21 and wore some jeans, a button up flower patterned shirt in black and white, and shoes he had recently bought. One of the main guys talked to him and asked where he got his coat because it was nice. J, not caring told him, and the guy said, oh, I don’t know that place, but I bet the kids do. Lol. It annoyed J, but I was thinking, before that day, no one ever spoke to us there if we were away from the couple we went with. We drove a crappy vehicle that made awful noises so again, we just felt so out of place. I told J when we left that I bet the only reason they talked to us is because of how we dressed. WOW. Was I right or wrong? I don’t know, but it was how we FELT at the time. I wanted to impress the people around us. I was focusing on the WRONG thing, that is for sure.

I watch people and wonder if any of them are going through what we went through, if any of them are feeling these things. We shouldn’t make people feel this way at all, ever. People say that a person can’t make someone feel a certain way, that they do it themselves. I think it goes both ways though, but maybe we can talk about that later.

So back to today. We wore what was in our closets. I did not buy anything just for today, and we did not feel out of place anywhere. After church, we stopped at a gas station to pick up a few drinks (we like their cups), and while walking out Alexis said, “We look rich!” It made me laugh because my 10 year old is on a completely different level of thinking than I was at her age. I love how my kids don’t care. They are confident with themselves and know what and who is important in life. I think as parents, we are on the right track.

Bold words are our recent thrift finds.

goodwill60easter_8 Alexis and I forgot our accessories that were to tie our colors together.

goodwill60easter_7 Alexis took this photo. Awww.

goodwill60easter_6 I have 4″ heels on and she is still up to my shoulders. *tears*

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goodwill60easter_2 goodwill60easter_3 Whoops!!

We will go in order of the photos 🙂

Moms outfit:

Dress: Express- Goodwill- 3.50 (half off color tag) It had a ribbon bow pin with hanging beads centered on the waist that I took off. I think that was a post purchase addition though, I’m not sure, but it had to go ;).

Cardigan: GAP- Goodwill- 3.99

Shoes: Aldo- Goodwill- 4.99 (Brand new)

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Dads outfit:

Shirt: GAP- Goodwill- 3.99

Pants: Reaction by Kenneth Cole- Goodwill- 4.99

Shoes: Sperry- Rack Room Shoes- 25.00 (BOGO event. I got mine and he got his half off)

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Alexis outfit:

Dress: Miss Majesty- Ross- 10.99

Sandals: Stevies- Ross- 15.99

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DuGreis outfit:

Shirt: Ralph Lauren- Family Thrift Center- 2.99

Shorts: Nautica- Goodwill- 2.99 (NWT)

Shoes: George- Walmart- 15.99 (purchased by a friend for his Christmas outfit)

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I’m pretty sure Alexis has SOMETHING that is a coral color, but we love this dress. We had accessories to tie the colors together and forgot to wear them so she is really the highlight here! I love it anyway and even better because it matches her personality perfectly. She is unique. She is strong, turning heads wherever she goes, and always will. I love my strong family more than words can describe and am blessed beyond belief that I get to spend my life with them.

Happy Easter!!!

Love my family. Love my life.

Love, The Family Coleition

Feel free to post photos of your amazing finds!!!

Be sure to look back at our other cuties.

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